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Tuesday, December 30, 2008

HOW TO GET OVER DEATH OF A PARENT - A WIN WIN WIN SITUATION

From October 13, 2007 ON AIR JUDGE WYLD SHOW - Radio Talk
Excerpt from show prep notes. On air content may have been more or less. Not journalistic or debate notes.

WIN WIN Alan’s House


Alan is a single guy, was needing to put up 12 foot boards on the exterior of his house as replacement fascia board.


Remember when you were a kid.. not wanting to clean your room… but your friend couldn’t leave his house to play baseball unless he cleaned up his room… so you rush over to his house to help him clean his room…it was quick, it was fun, it was done…. Your room still wasn’t clean and you get in trouble for that.


Same with Alan’s roofing fascia boards.


A friend’s mom recently died and his wife was needing him to recover somewhat rather than bumming around the house. There is a lot that a wife can do but some things that a man needs that only man time can do.


So when he had put me as an honorary pallbearer for his mom's funeral, she kept after him to spend some time with me.


So I arranged with her for him to go to Alan’s place with me after a regular work da… to either heckle Alan as he works til dark or to change into yard clothes and help him. We choose to help, and heckle, and drag it on til after dark.


We had a blast… tomorrow after church, we are going to finish the job.


Alan won because people cared enough to spend time to get his project advanced. Marty won because he had a chance to engage in male bonding away from his family and sadness.

I won, just cuz I appreciated how it all came together!!!


The point is that when you have healing to do, you heal best when you help others, you have the most energy when you are thinking of others.


When you help others and are thinking of others, you come out ahead without even caring that you have come out ahead of where you started.


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Sincerely, JUDGE WYLD


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