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Sunday, November 30, 2008

TALKING TO THE KIDS: DAD GAVE UP DREAMS; FOR YOU, STOP SPENDING MONEY!

From June 07, 2008 ON AIR JUDGE WYLD SHOW - Radio Talk

Excerpt from show prep notes. On air content may have been more or less. Not journalistic or debate notes.

We are a unique radio show. As a matter of fact. Most radio talk shows have a monologue or a conversation between others… but this show is one that actually talks directly to you.

I know your ears are there. I give you full credit for having a brain behind those ears. I give you full credit for having eyes that if I could see through your radio, I’d be looking into your eyes as we are talking.

Yes. Today, just like every other day that the Judge Wyld show is on the air, I am actually talking to YOU. On this show, I have talked to you, a woman. And to you, a man. I have talked to YOU a reasonable person, I have talked to YOU an irresponsible person. Each and every story I relate and each and every opinion and judgment I make that comes through your radio to you… is meant to be a conversation with YOU…..

THAT is how people make a difference. If I were talking to just the cows and sheep and goats…. I wouldn’t be here on the radio… It’s a caring thing. It’s a heart thing. It’s a very real giving thing.

And because it is a very real giving thing. I want your children to be near the radio right now. Immediately. We have never said anything that can’t be heard by a child. A teenager. A 3 year old. A 10 year old. NOT that we don’t think things that we COULD talk about with you adults that we would think too advanced for the kids…. We certainly have a warped sense of humor that crosses the full range of human and adult experiences. But TODAY… I will talk specifically to the children.

It is a few weeks prior to Fathers day and it is time to start thinking CORRECTLY about Fathers.

Working Fathers give their life for you. They have man intuition to be authoritative and autonomous…. They want to be their own boss and want to approach their work in their own way. But they sacrificed these precious natural desires that would have been achievable…. they married your mom and they made children together….

Your Father gave up being his own boss. He goes to work wanting to keep a job even if he doesn’t like the job. He doesn’t get to do what he wants or exactly how he wants. Your dad has given up his autonomy… as a child you understand about wanting control.

KIDS: Everyone is telling you what to do. How to do it. And WHEN they want you to do it…. Mow the yard. Use the old mower. And mow it back and forth… no circles. And clean up the grass clippings. No you can’t go to the movies. No you can’t just go hang out at the mall. No you can’t have the expensive shoes….and if your Dad is NOT telling you exactly what to do…. He might be asking you to come to him with your own plan on how you are going to get it done by Thursday AND he wants you to tell him your plan. Then do it.

You think your Dad is mean. That he is picking on you…. Do you know… that when your dad is at work… someone is telling him what work they want him to do… WHEN your dad has to get it done… and often HOW to do it… there are printed processes that HE MUST Follow…. And if they don’t tell him how to do it… he must PLAN it himself and Tell the boss what his plan is…and he must do it……

Does your dad want to be told what to do? Or when to do it? NO NO NO… but he does it for YOU…. You are his children. He wants to keep his job so YOU can have a house, a bedroom, some clothes… a car to be driven to work.

Children… let’s look at the money dad makes. If dad makes 60,000 dollars a year he may only bring home about 20 dollars for every hour that he works.

When he pays 1000 dollars for your house each month… he had to go work for someone and do what they said and hope they liked what he did. How many hours did he work for your house each month??? 50 hours. How about 400 dollars for the car. 20 more hours. What about mom’s car… 20 more hours. How about gas? How about water for your shower. How about electricity?

Those are a lot of hours a month that dad works for YOU. His life going to work is not about him. He can’t go do the exciting things that he wanted to do. When he was a boy he dreamed of many exciting things to do. But he decided that he would give all of that up for YOU. He loves you. Love is not just a hug but love is a commitment. Even if your dad never smiles. Even if he doesn’t tell you about the details of the sacrifices he is making for you… Even if he is very tired and doesn’t do all of the fun things you want him to do …. Look at what he has given up for you.

He goes to work. Get’s told what to do… how fast it must be done. He doesn’t control his own life. Maybe you could understand what he has given up for you. For 20, 30 years or more… he has given up his boyhood dreams… to be a man for YOU… to give up his dreams for YOU to live in that house, be driven around in those cars….

That is why he wants you to THINK. He wants you to put a bit of work into the family too.

So guess what? If he buys you a 20 dollar pair of shoes. He had to work for an entire hour for those shoes. If you actually demand a 60 dollar pair of shoes…. He has to work an extra TWO HOURS for those shoes…. One hour was enough… but you demanded he work two hours more for those shoes that you want. If you want to go to the movies or out to dinner. YOU didn’t need to go to the movies… you didn’t need to go out to dinner and order an expensive meal!!! You made dad work an extra hour just for YOU.

Why don’t you think about Dad?… do you love him? You can give him a great big gift… next time you think about shoes, or pants, or jeans, or movies, or what to eat for dinner.

I want you to say something to your dad today. No matter how old you are.. Really say this to dad….

"DAD, you love us and I love you." (this will get his attention.)

This is what I want you to do.. children…. I want to tell your dad that you know he gave up some dreams and some goals. I want you to tell your dad that you want to save him from having to work extra hours for things. That you want his life to be more fun for him.

Tell your dad that you will not make him work extra. You will want simpler things and you want him to enjoy his life more. I want you to tell him that you want to be like him some day. That you want to be a good parent in the way that he has sacrificed for YOU.

I want you to tell him that you understand him and the love he is giving on you. And if you could do me one more deep and meaningful favor…..

I want you to tell your mom to appreciate and understand dad too. Children… I’m talking to you… YOU are powerful… YOU can make dad’s life happier. You think you have no power.

All you hear is about the things that are wasted around the house. About the things that money is spent on that DAD thinks are not needed…. Children… he is right. He works extra hours for every 20 dollars.

He is loving you with every hour he works. A man wants to be free and free from other people controlling HIM just the same that you want that freedom ….. give him the freedom… from your heart…..from extra hours that you make him work by making demands on him….

Father’s day is every day that you appreciate him and support his dreams and goals by giving him the freedom from having to work those extra hours for YOU…..

KIDs: I thank you…. Keep listening to Judge Wyld here… you will learn more in the next weeks.

Sincerely, JUDGE WYLD

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